Friendship shouldn’t be this hard

Hey All

It comes as a shock for me to say this as just in my last blog post, I was saying how close I was to this particular person, but now it couldn’t be further away from the truth. In fact, I’d 100% say that it is the complete opposite.

Nadia and I have been fighting and fighting and fighting so much to the point where I really can’t be bothered to try and salvage this friendship anymore. I’ve tried and tried countless times but it just doesn’t seem to be working for either of us and friendship shouldn’t be this hard right? I meant love the girl but this just isn’t working anymore and it’s not healthy for either of us.

Idk, I guess what I’m asking you guys is whether or not I should end this friendship once and for all or just see where it takes us? I’m honestly leaning towards ending it because whenever we fight it makes me so so so sad that I can’t even be bothered to talk to anyone and I just fall into this kind of depressed state and I don’t ever wanna be in that again…but as long as I’m friends with her, it’s never gonna stop.

I’m getting a lot closer with a few other people right now who are genuinely making me a lot happier than Nadia is and I’m kinda getting the vibe that Nadia’s jealous but I’m not just gonna assume.

I don’t know, it’s all so weird. Please help meeeee

Love,

Alex – The Awkward Expert🌺♥

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10 thoughts on “Friendship shouldn’t be this hard

  1. Bayance says:

    Whatttt omg I did not expect that. You and Nadia were like super close this whole year and you’ve always been there for each other. Personally, I don’t think you should end the friendship but maybe sort out some type of break off the friendship. Most of the time, when you’re close to someone for a long time, fights are obviously going to happen. I’m not sure what the fights are about but if they’re about one thing, I guess that’s pretty solvable. But if you guys are fighting about every little thing, you probably need a break. If she’s not going to the same sixth form place (sorry in Canada there are still two more years of high school 😂), it’s worth fixing but if not, you might just drift away. At the end of the day, it’s up to you and you know how you feel about it so if it’s better to end it, then you can talk to her. Nadia seems like a real friend so I think a break would solve the tension.

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    • Aboutmyawkwardworld says:

      IKR? it was so unexpected.
      Everytime I try and talk to her about it, it just leads to another argument so it’s hard to confide in her about that.
      I think I’ll take a break from her and she’ll take one from me and I’ll see what happens but right now? I honestly don’t even know how I feel about her

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  2. Elm says:

    Ahhhh Alex, I’m so sorry to hear this. Have you tried talking to her about this? That might be the first option. If that doesn’t work, ending the friendship might be for the best because it’s impacting your mental health and if all she brings is negativity, that’s utterly unfair on you. If you need to talk about it, I’m always here; I know how hard cutting someone out of your life can be xxx

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  3. questionsfromateenager says:

    I guess it kind of depends on what you’re fighting about – if it’s just stupid and unnecessary stuff then I definitely wouldn’t drop the friendship. A friendship after all is like a relationship – it takes hard work on both ends and fights WILL happen. It’s how you both deal with conflict that’s crucial. Maybe just have a sit down chat with her on neutral grounds and tell her what you’ve been feeling lately. That you feel like this can’t go on for any longer and that you both have to come up with a solution. (I think it would be unfair to exclude her from that decision, seeing as you both are part of your friendship)

    Maybe you two just need a break from each other – I have a friend and we were in contact 24/7 for yeeeaaars and it got to a point where it was driving me insane. We were annoyed at each other for no apparent reason and I was constantly unsure of what to do. If I was feeling this way, surely the friendship just didn’t work anymore. I voiced those concerns to him and we decided to just take some time apart – no talking to each other, no texting each other – radio silence. That break was honestly the best thing to ever happen to our friendship. I feel like I got some perspective on a lot of things and grew from that. I also realised how much I actually missed my friend. I started worrying about how he was because I didn’t know everything 24/7 anymore. To keep this short, we just took some time to create a new kind of balance to our friendship. A month later (we hab never spent so much time apart) I had my best friend again. We had each other. And we learnt from all of it. Most of all, I think we learnt how to communicate with each other better.

    Friendships can be hard sometimes and it’s the most important ones that can sometimes be the hardest because every single argument is magnified. It hurts more to argue with them as opposed to someone else because they are one of the most important people in your life and their opinion matters to you more than anything. That can be rough as hell sometimes.

    Hope this might help you or at least give you something to think about, Alex!

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    • Aboutmyawkwardworld says:

      the stuff we fight about kinda varies between serious and not serious but we both have kinda strong mindsets so it’s hard for both of us to put our pride aside .
      I think taking a break is definitely for the best but I don’t know how things will work after – like how will we become friends again?
      thank you sooo much – this is REALLY helpful😊

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