My Take on Love

(Hey would you look at that – more sensitive language)

Hey Guys,

Can I quickly just start out by saying how overrated love is?? Now trust me, I’m not just saying that because I’ve never been there…actually that’s pretty much exactly my reasoning behind this. Don’t take this to heart is what I’m essentially trying to say. This may be hard for some of you guys to believe but I actually don’t care about that too much.

I just feel like love is so often confused with lust and once you get what you were looking for (Yes, I mean sex – get over it) the magic is over and that person is just some guy or girl you fucked a couple of times.

I mean the the words “make love” have lost ALL of their meaning. Nowadays, sex isn’t about love. It’s about the millions of dollars it’s making the porn industry each year. I mean, I honestly can’t remember the last time I’ve seen a guy my age actually want to have sex with somebody they love, compared to the guys I’ve seen who wanna bag the girl with the biggest breasts and fattest ass. Oh lets not discriminate – I can’t forget about all the girls out there who want their man to have the worlds biggest dick and hardest abs – I see you ladies in the back. Yes, maybe it’s just me – maybe I’m CRAZY and I live around weirdos, but come on, really think about it.

You may see that stuff in movies and tv shows where the main guys best friend is a perv (“how I met your mother” – I’m talking about you barney) but that shit happens in real life too – it’s just kinda depressing to  know that it happens at the tender age of 15 – or even younger.

I mean, I get how you can love your family or your friends or chocolate or any inanimate object there is. But loving someone as a partner is just…weird to me. Maybe it’s just because I’ve never experienced it before, but nowadays, couples don’t even seem happy together. That’s why divorce rates have skyrocketed and so have the purchasing of gaming systems due to the fact that significant others have been throwing them into pools as a result of cheating…yeah – I’ve seen quite a lot of that one.

Anyway, I guess my point is –

Does love ever last? Can you ever truly be in love with somebody – or is it just infatuation? Is it just your sexual organs speaking for your brain? Are you just too hopped up on testosterone or oestrogen to think straight and REALLY fall for a person. Because let’s be real – if you meet the funniest, most caring guy/girl in the world, but they don’t live up to your ideal body type or appearance, or just your preference, do you HONESTLY see a future? I know a shit tonne of people would say it doesn’t matter but please just think. I honestly think that if you say it doesn’t matter to you, you are one of 2 things –

  1. a liar
  2. a liar (and yes, I meant to say this twice)

I’m sorry to burst your bubble, but it’s all down to physical attraction. You may love their personality and their behaviour, but you LUST for their looks. There are even tv Shows about people choosing partners based on their bodies…That’s just how it is…well at least in my eyes.

Can we actually just talk about sex for a moment? I feel like it’s a topic that’s rarely talked about in the blogging community. Idk maybe I’m just looking in the wrong places but it’s hard to find anyone with an open enough mind to even consider it. I mean it is perfectly natural – in fact, it’s probably how you’re able to be here and read this right now, but the dangers and worries and shit? NEVER SPOKEN ABOUT. That’s why things like STD’s and unwanted pregnancies happen. Like for fucks sake guys just use a condom. I didn’t think it would be such a hard concept to learn but the statistics would tell me otherwise.

Well this post was…different. I know it’s a bit controversial but it’s just how I feel – lemme know what you guys think! I’m open to any criticism or personal experience down below.

I hope you enjoyed this blog post and I’ll see you again soon with another one

Also – happy almost valentines day😂 I bet this DEFINITELY put you in the mood.

love,

Alex🌺

Published by The Life of Alex

7 thoughts on “My Take on Love”

  2. questionsfromateenager says:
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    So much YES for this post. Let me just say, a few years ago I was in the exact dilemma. I had the same doubts. Now this is what I’ve learned since:

    1) physical attraction will always be an important factor, I mean if I’m not attracted to you the byyyeeee. That being said, getting to know a person beforehand and really liking them CAN actually make a person more attractive. Can’t believe I’m admitting this, but I once fell head over heels for a guy who was definitely NOT my type from the get-go. In fact, we were friends for years before one day I was like “wait… I actually think I like him”. And all of these small wonderful things about him just kept adding up and at that point he was the most gorgeous guy I had ever seen. I think what I learned is that it IS important, will always be, after all, your appearance kind of makes the first impression. But what I took away from it was that you should never be too quick to judge or write off a person completely.

    2) Love is a concept most people will think they’ve experienced, but really haven’t. I don’t really think I even know what love is. I think the a big barrier in teen relationships is hormones. Guys just running around waving their dicks in the air, girls not being much better themselves. Love does not equal lust and in my opinion it shouldn’t. As long as people are clear about what they want and are safe – you do you. I think it is great that it’s being accepted that not only men can be sexual, but also women. Women can be lustful. Women want sex too. Just like most men will want a relationship at some point. I think while we do lust for people’s bodies, it can also be about the experience itself. For me, I just wanted to…feel something I guess. I had all of these new emotions and needs and sex gave me that intimacy I longed for at the time. Even if it was without a relationship attached to it. Like you said, it’s a natural urge.

    3) Us teens generally get caught up in a place between reality and fantasy quite a lot. I think that’s why almost every teenage relationship fails, I myself have a hard time taking relationships at my age seriously. So I just tend to let things happen naturally. I go with my gut. I try not to be too pessimistic about love (which can definitely be fucking hard sometimes) and I strive to be more open to new people.

    4) Love has just become a decision, like buying a TV. If you don’t like it, you can still take it back. Even throw it in the trash. And throwing out a TV is socially acceptable. You don’t try to repair it, if you don’t like it, if it’s not working at the moment, it’s gone. It’s as simple as that.

    5) Sex has become something highly accessible to anyone, anyplace, anytime. Social media and dating apps make that possible. Again, socially acceptable. People become options to choose from.

    Anyway, these are just some of my thoughts, sorry for this long-ass comment, I hope you could understand my incoherent ramblings. I really loved this post a lot! xx

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  3. Indy Watson says:
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    OMG. When you said gaming purchases had gone up I thought it was because more guys were being single hahah. Also. I kinda agree with what you’re saying, like a lot, but I also want to add that research has been done, and it’s like a fact that someone you may not find attractive at first, after forming a connection and friendship, you can actually become MORE sexually attracted to them.

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